Semper Fidelis

I am 20, what do I possibly know about relationships you may ask.


I may have the impractical opinion that they should be loving and happy and joyful all the time but can't a girl dream.


I may believe that the occasional bunch of flowers or spontaneous picnics or walks in the mist are a necessity but don't always have to happen.


I may believe that I should be the princess of my partner's life and he is damn lucky to have me (this is a note to all potential SINGLE males from a single female)


I do not have to believe the next piece of criteria, it is just the cardinal rule in my humble opinion.


Within a relationship, all parties should be faithful! ALWAYS FAITHFUL.




I not so long ago had a messy break up. I have grown from my experience and I can live with myself knowing I had the time of my life whilst I was in it but the time of my life is continuing out of it as well.


I can swear on my life I was faithful.


What has pissed me off today is finding out that the other 50% of our little bond struggled with the cardinal rule. Good old facebook and the joys of having dated someone who may have hit puberty but is a lifetime off maturity.


Of course I am angry and hurt but you know what, good on him. He is strengthening himself and building a barrier for when someone does it to him. He obviously believed he had to be 'the cheater' to understand how to handle being cheated on. 


It is just like coaching. Bit hard to coach a team if you have never played the sport.




But just a heads up. 


Don't use me as your test dummy and your warm up lap.


It is not one's trophy! I for one am definitely not going to congratulate you. Might hit you but definitely not in a high-5 sense.


I hope he doesn't have to go through it because it is the worst final memory. It takes every good memory you have, experiences them and then turns them into your deepest fear and the biggest nightmare. You resent everything you had which is pointless because you wouldn't love something you resented. 


On the off chance it does happen to him (I will not laugh, I will comfort, I did love after all) but I also hope the training session he executed with me has prepared him.


Good luck! (Not only to him, but to all those that do it!)